Build Your BOLD with Dr. Onaysia Martinez

Ep07 | You Don’t Need Another Opinion—You Need to Tap Into The Voice You Were Taught to Ignore

Do you keep brushing off your best ideas because they don’t feel “realistic”?Do you talk yourself out of trying something new because you're afraid of looking “dumb,” making a mistake, or—worst of all—being judged by your family?
In this real, unfiltered episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — explores what it really means to trust your inner voice. She shares her story of giving up on her dream of becoming a chef and how one comment from a parent shaped the trajectory of her entire life.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your childhood passions still matter (and how they reveal your purpose)
How to stop throwing away ideas that don’t seem “realistic”
A framework for identifying what's yours vs. what you inherited
How to use your inner compass to make decisions that align with you — not your family, culture, or fear
If you’ve been searching:🔎 “How do I trust my gut again?”🔎 “I have a dream but I’m scared what people will think”🔎 “How to find my purpose when I’ve been living for others”
🔎 "How do I stop carrying about what other people think?"Then THIS is your divine download, queen.
P.S. Want to stop overthinking and start taking action? Join the waitlist for Path to Purpose — the personalized coaching experience designed to help first-gen women just like you reclaim their dreams and live their lives on their own terms. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Self-Doubt and Fear
00:26 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast
01:06 A Personal Story: Dreams vs. Expectations
02:47 Embracing Your Ideas and Creativity
04:42 Deep Inner Child Work
06:04 Identifying and Overcoming Barriers
08:32 Path to Purpose: Taking the Next Step
09:11 Conclusion: Take Action Now

Ep06 | How to Take the Leap When You’re Afraid of Failing (And What To Do When You Fall)

What would your life look like if fear wasn’t in charge?What if you submitted the job application, finally booked the girls trip, or launched the business idea you’ve been dreaming about—but have been too scared to start?
In this empowering episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — unpacks the real reason you keep putting off the life you want: fear of failure, fear of sucking, fear of not being “perfect” from the start.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to stop waiting until you're “ready” and just start
Why fear is not a stop sign — it’s a signal
A powerful reframe of failure as fuel for success
How to take bold action, even when you're scared (and maybe not that good yet)
If you’ve been searching:
🔎 “How to stop being afraid of failure”🔎 “I want to start something but I’m scared”🔎 “How to feel more confident trying something new”...then this episode is your next brave step forward.
P.S. Don’t miss Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — your next step to ditch fear-based decisions and build a life rooted in courage and purpose. Sign up here.
Your Next Steps:
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Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: What If You Took the Leap?
00:26 Overcoming the Fear of Failure
02:52 Reframing Failure as a Stepping Stone
04:12 The Power of Trying and Showing Up
06:10 Embracing and Processing Your Emotions
06:50 Practicing Courage in Everyday Life
08:36 Conclusion: Take Action Now
 
 

Ep05 | The Overachiever Trap: When Being “That Girl” Becomes Your Biggest Weakness

Have you always been “that girl” — the one who had it all together, made everyone proud, and got all the gold stars… but still feels like it’s never enough?
This episode is for you.
Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — is giving a loving but much-needed callout to all the high-achieving mujeres out there who are quietly running on fumes. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t stop achieving, even for a second… it’s not ambition, sis — it’s a pattern. And it’s time to break it.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why being an overachiever can feel like a strength… but secretly drain your joy
How to stop chasing validation through performance and praise
What happens when your identity is too tied to success — and how to reclaim it
A new way to define worthiness that doesn’t require burnout to prove it
Whether you’re still checking boxes, or hitting milestones that don’t even excite you anymore — this is your sign to pause, reflect, and choose yourself.
If you've been searching:
🔎 “How to stop being a perfectionist at work”🔎 “Why I can’t ever relax?”
🔎"How do I stop being so hard on myself?"🔎 “Signs of high-functioning burnout in women”This episode was made for you.
P.S. Don’t miss Dr. Onaysia’s free live training: “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — where you’ll learn how to stop chasing and start feeling successful from the inside out. Sign up here.
 Your Next Steps:
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Timestamps:
00:00 How To Know If You're An Overachiever
02:06 The Downside of Overachievement
05:10 Understanding the Overachiever Mindset
07:17 Celebrate Your Wins
10:46 Shift Your Mindset
12:41 Taking Action and Final Thoughts
Let’s Connect!
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Ep04 | The Real Reason You Have the Sunday Scaries (and What to Do About It)

If your Sunday brunch is ruined by anxiety before the check even hits the table… you’re not alone.
In this episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-generation Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — unpacks the real reason behind the Sunday Scaries that hit high-achieving women like a freight train every weekend.
If no amount of prepping, bubble baths, or planner resets are stopping that pit in your stomach before Monday… it’s time for a different approach.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your Sunday dread is less about Monday, and more about misalignment with the work you actually do
How to identify the exact parts of your workday draining your joy
Ways to reconnect with what lights you up — and how to bring more of it into your life
How to set bold boundaries in the workplace and stop normalizing overachievement as survival
If you’re constantly searching:🔎 “Why do I get anxious on Sundays?”🔎 “How to deal with Sunday Scaries in a toxic job”🔎 “Feeling dread before work every week” —...this episode is for you.
P.S. Be sure to register for Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — your next step toward building a life you don’t need to run away from. Sign up here.
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for weekly mindset shifts and identity-liberating conversations
Share this with a fellow cycle-breaker who’s secretly suffering in silence
Leave a review so other bad*ss women can find their own path.
Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program — and stop working jobs that drain you
Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
 
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: The Dreaded Sunday Scaries
03:52 Realization and the Root Cause
05:16 Identifying Your Triggers
06:58 Balancing Joy and Drain
08:03 Setting Boundaries at Work
09:06 Taking Action and Moving Forward
09:39 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

Ep03 | You Don't Need Another Training or Certification -- Here's Why

If you’ve been thinking: “Maybe if I just get one more certification, I’ll finally feel confident…” — this episode is your wake-up call.
In this bold, truth-packed episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — exposes the hidden pressure high-achieving, first-gen Latinas face to constantly prove themselves through degrees, certifications, and titles… even when they’ve already done the most.
She unpacks why we chase the next training instead of addressing the deeper misalignment beneath it — and what it really takes to feel successful, fulfilled, and proud of who you are without another piece of paper.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why constantly chasing “the next level” is a trauma response, not ambition
How we tie our self-worth to achievements — and how to untangle it
What to do when your resume is stacked, but your soul still feels off
Why true freedom starts when you stop trying to prove and start choosing purpose
If you’ve ever asked yourself:🔎 “Should I get another certification?”
🔎 "How can I level up in my career?"🔎 “How do I stop feeling like I’m not enough in my career?”🔎 “Why am I still unhappy even though I’m successful?” —Then this episode was made for you.
P.S. Don’t miss Dr. Onaysia’s free live webinar: “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — where you’ll learn how to stop chasing validation and start living a life that’s aligned with who you really are. Sign up here.
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for more truth-filled episodes on Latina empowerment, legacy-breaking, and purpose.
Share this with a friend who’s been drowning in perfectionism and people-pleasing.
Leave a review so this podcast can reach more mujeres looking to live out their purpose and create their own legacies.
Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program — because your next chapter isn’t in a course, it’s in your clarity.
Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
 
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: The Certification Trap
03:15 Do You Really Need Another Certification, Sis?
03:38 Understanding Your True Worth
05:54 Aligning Career with Personal Fulfillment
07:10 The Importance of Self-Validation
08:22 Steps to True Freedom and Purpose
11:19 Taking Action Towards Your Dream Life
 

Ep02 | You're Not Tired, You're Out of Alignment -- Why Vacation Can't Fix Your Career Burnout

Why are you still exhausted, even after taking time off?
If you're constantly counting down to your next PTO day and banking on that vacation to make you feel whole again… this episode is for you.
In this episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-generation Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — uncovers the real reason why you’re still burnt out, unfulfilled, and disconnected, even when you’re doing all the “right” things.
She breaks down how spiritual and emotional burnout disguises itself as physical exhaustion — and why no amount of rest, self-care, or red light therapy will fix a job that’s misaligned with your soul.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your PTO isn’t healing the burnout you’re actually feeling
The 4 types of exhaustion—and how to tell which one you’re really battling
Why feeling off is actually a red flag, not something to ignore
How to reconnect with what lights you up and stop living for the weekend
Whether you’re thriving on paper, but drowning in silence… or stuck in a job you once prayed for but now lowkey hate — this is your moment to start getting honest with yourself.
P.S. Don’t miss the invitation to Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — your next step towards building a life that doesn’t require recovery. Sign up here.
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for more real-talk on first-gen identity, Latina empowerment, and breaking free from legacy pressure
Share this episode with your high-achieving amiga who’s running on empty
Leave a review so this podcast gets out to more high-achievers looking to find their purpose in life.
Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program — because it’s time you stop surviving and start thriving
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction: The PTO Dilemma
01:03 A Personal Story: The Wellness Resort Experience
03:13 The Realization: Vacation Isn't the Solution
04:16 Three Key Takeaways for True Fulfillment
04:37 Lesson One: Aligning with Your Work
05:39 The Importance of Spiritual and Emotional Health
08:09 Webinar Invitation: Dive Deeper into Fulfillment
08:59 Finding Joy and Purpose in Your Daily Life
11:14 Conclusion: Take Action Towards Your Dream Life
 
Let’s Connect!
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Ep01 | Redefining Success On YOUR Terms & Finding Your Joy

Why am I still unfulfilled, even though I’ve “made it”?If you’ve ever laid awake wondering why your dream career feels more like a cage than a calling… this episode is for you. In this powerful episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — a first-generation Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — reveals the truth about high-achieving burnout and what no one tells you about “success.”
She breaks down how cultural expectations, generational pressure, and corporate lies keep first-gen women stuck in lives that look perfect on paper, but feel hollow in their hearts.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why so many successful first-gen women still feel lost and disconnected
How to stop tying your worth to achievements and external validation
What to do when you’re burnt out, unmotivated, and questioning everything
Steps to start living with more clarity, purpose, and joy — right now
Whether you’re considering leaving your career, craving something deeper, or just sick of faking fulfillment — this is your sign to start living life on your own terms.
P.S. - Don’t miss the details on Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — in order to ditch the pressure, rediscover your purpose, and step into a legacy that’s actually yours. Sign up here.
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for more real-talk on first-generation identity, Latina empowerment, and building your own legacy.
Share this episode with the high-achieving hermana who’s been questioning her path lately.
Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Program — because it's time you forge your own path.
Let's Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📱 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction: Feeling Unfulfilled Despite Success
01:03 Personal Story: Realizing the Missing Piece
01:44 Redefining Success: Internal vs. External
02:46 Steps to Find Fulfillment
05:09 Discovering Your True Passions
06:42 Invitation to Webinar: How to Further Your Success
07:28 Taking Action: Build Your Dream Life
08:05 Conclusion: Live Selfishly and Purposefully
 
 

Trailer

Welcome to The Selfish Snob Podcast – this isn't just a podcast, it's a movement, a rebellion, a revolution for the high-achieving Latina, the product of immigrants, the eldest daughter, and the overachiever who is tired of playing by everyone else’s rules and is ready to create her own legacy.
 
If you’ve ever looked around your “successful” life and thought “Is this really it?”—this podcast is your permission slip to want more. Every Monday, we get real about how the "American Dream" sold to us by our families, schools, and society was a lie—and how to finally walk away from the life you were supposed to live to build the life you actually want.
We’re breaking down:
The myths of stability meant to keep you living small
The pressure to make everyone proud—at the cost of your own joy
How to rediscover your voice, purpose, and power without guilt
This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a rebellion against living small. We’re talking fulfillment, purpose, bold decisions, and how to become the most selfishly aligned version of yourself. We aren't here to get approval from others, we're here to lead our own legacies--selfishly, and unapologetically!
Tune in every Monday and be sure to follow the show so you never miss an update!
 
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