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Ep17 | When Success Isn’t Enough: Mindset Shifts for High-Achieving Women Craving More

Ever looked around at your life and thought… is this really it?You’ve got it all, your career, your family — but deep down, you’re still searching for more. More joy. More time for you.
And worse? You feel guilty for even thinking it.
In this episode of The Selfish Snob, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — identity liberation + catalyst coach — unpacks why high-achieving women feel stuck even after “making it,” and how to stop letting external validation dictate your worth.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:• How your mindset is shaped by generational expectations and performance-based worth• Why mindfulness is essential to personal development and career clarity• The cost of tying your identity to achievements, roles, and being “the strong one”• How to redefine leadership from the inside out in a way that feels good to you
If you’ve ever said:🔎 “I want more, but I feel selfish even thinking about it”🔎 “I don’t know who I am outside of my job and accomplishments”🔎 “I’m scared to want something different — what will people think?”
...this episode was made for you.
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Ep16 | The American Dream Was Never Yours Queen—Time To Build Your Own

Burned Out by the American Dream? Reclaim Your Purpose & Redefine Success on Your Terms
Ever checked every box — the job, the degree, the salary — and still felt burned out, disconnected, and lowkey miserable?
In this raw and unapologetic episode of The Selfish Snob Podcast, Latina life coach and identity liberation mentor Dr. Onaysia Martinez calls out the toxic blueprint of the so-called “American Dream” and how it keeps high-achieving first-gen women trapped in cycles of self-doubt, overachievement, and emotional burnout.
This is the episode for the woman who looks “successful” on paper, but secretly feels like she’s suffocating.
You’ll walk away with:
The truth about why the “safe and stable” path is not the same as purpose
What high-functioning burnout actually looks like in women of color (spoiler: it’s not always exhaustion)
How to shift your mindset from survival mode to self-actualization
What it really takes to build a life and business rooted in alignment, freedom, and personal development
Why choosing yourself isn’t selfish — it’s revolutionary
If you’ve been searching podcasts for:🔎 “How to find my purpose”🔎 “Latina life coach podcast”🔎 “Burnout recovery for high achievers”🔎 “How to leave a job that no longer aligns”🔎 “Mindset shifts for first-gen women”…this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.
You were never meant to just survive. You were born to lead — in your life, your legacy, and your liberation.
Ready to take aligned action?Join the waitlist for The Rebel Reunion (formerly known as Path to Purpose) — a transformational experience for first-gen women ready to rewrite the rules and step into a life that actually excites them. Doors close May 21st. Price goes up for the next round. Learn more at www.luvugurl.com/programs.
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Ep.15 | Every Powerhouse Needs a Pause—Here’s Your Sign to Take Care of You First

Sis, when’s the last time you came first?
If you’ve been out here managing everyone else’s chaos—holding the family down, chasing the dream, showing up for everyone but yourself—this episode of The Selfish Snob is your sacred interruption.
Dr. Onaysia Martinez gets real about the emotional storm of moving states, launching a major challenge, and still having to show up while lowkey falling apart. This isn’t a highlight reel—it’s a reality check, a release, and a reclaiming.
✨ It’s the episode every high-achieving, emotionally exhausted, purpose-hungry Latina didn’t know she needed. And it hits deep.
You’ll get into:
The real difference between self-soothing and self-honoring
A weekly ritual to drop the weight you’ve been carrying—spiritually, emotionally, generationally
Why ancestral expectations are fueling your burnout more than your busy calendar
How to actually start living for yourself—not your abuela’s legacy, not your job title, not your degree
If you’ve ever asked yourself:🔎 “How do I stop overextending and pour into me?”🔎 “Is there a way to give back to myself without disappointing my family?”🔎 “Can I be soft, sacred, and still show up like a boss?”
 
💌 P.S. Doors to The R.E.B.E.L. Reunion™ open soon—formerly Path to Purpose, this is your new go-to space to release who you were told to be and return to the woman beneath the surface. Join the waitlist before it fills up, only 2 spots available.

Ep14 | (BONUS INSIDE) How to Ditch The Expectations & Redefine Your Success

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Ever feel like you're constantly performing the version of success your family dreamed of — but it never quite feels like yours?Like you're chasing degrees, promotions, and praise, but deep down, you're craving permission to start over?
In this potent episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — is pulling back the curtain on what went down inside her live webinar: Why First-Gen Success Isn’t the Full Story. If you missed it, don’t worry — she brought the gems, the truth, and a powerful bonus you still have time to access.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why traditional “success” leaves first-gen women feeling stuck and secretly unfulfilled
How to stop confusing obligation with alignment — especially when it comes to family
The real reason you're afraid to pivot (and what to do about it)
How you can begin to detach from the pressure and rediscover what success actually means for you
If you’ve ever wondered:🔎 “What would my life look like if I wasn’t carrying everyone else’s expectations?”🔎 “What if I outgrow the version of success I’ve been praised for?”🔎 “Am I allowed to want something different… something more?”...this episode is your sign. The version of you that wants more is not selfish — she’s your truth.
BONUS ALERTEnrollment for the 3-Day Ditch & Detach Challenge is now open — but there are only 6 spots left, and the price increases Friday at 11:59 PM EST.
This is a sacred space for high-achieving Latinas to get real, let go, and get clear. Over 3 intentional days, you’ll finally stop performing for validation and start defining success on your terms.
Don’t miss this. Doors close soon, and you NEED this transformation, sis. You've been craving it, seeking it out, and now? It's finally here!
 
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Ep13 | You Were Never Just a Degree or Title: Here's How to Reclaim Your Inner Child Dream

Have you ever looked at your life—the degrees, the salary, the stability—and thought… “Why doesn’t this feel like me?” Like you built a life that made everyone proud but left your soul behind in the process? You’re not broken, sis—you’re just overdue for a reunion with the version of you that used to dream without limits.
 
In this vibrant episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares what it really looks like to reclaim the joy, creativity, and curiosity your inner child never stopped craving.
Because here’s the truth: You were never just a degree. Never just a title. You were always so much more.
 
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
•How to reconnect with the playful, vibrant self you lost in the hustle
•Why childhood dreams aren’t childish—they’re sacred clues to your purpose
•How to stop shaming your desires for more fun, freedom, and self-expression
•A simple weekly ritual to spark joy and creative confidence (even in a packed schedule)
 
If you’ve ever thought:
🔎 “I want to do something just for me—but I don’t even know what that is anymore.”
🔎 “I miss who I was before life got so stressful.”
🔎 “What happened to the girl who used to dream?”
Then this episode is your permission slip to bring her back to life.
 
P.S. If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start making bold, soulful moves toward your dream life, join my free webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST.
We’ll unpack the identity shifts, mindset resets, and inner liberation you need to build a life that finally feels like yours.
Save your seat now at www.luvugurl.com
 
 
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Ep12: Never Latina Enough: Embracing Your Identity When You Feel In-Between

Have you ever felt like you’re floating between cultures—never fully accepted in either one? Like your Spanish isn’t “fluent enough,” your features aren’t “Latina enough,” and yet you don’t feel fully seen in Black spaces either?
In this powerful episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — Afro-Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares a deeply personal story about growing up between cultures and how she finally stopped trying to fit in by choosing to stand fully in her truth.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to carry duality in your identity as an Afro-Latina
How to stop performing your culture and start embodying it
Why your truth doesn’t need outside permission to be valid
How to return to your roots to reclaim power and peace
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “I don’t feel Latina enough.”🔎 “I don’t fully belong anywhere.”🔎 “Where do I fit in?”Then girl — this episode is going to hit your spirit.
P.S. If you’re ready to stop seeking validation and start creating belonging from within, you need to be at my free live webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST. We’re unpacking identity, purpose, and the power of choosing your own damn path. Save your seat at www.luvugurl.com
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 Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Dual Cultures
01:00 Exploring Latina Identity
01:39 Navigating Different Cultures
03:53 Understanding Afro-Latina Heritage
05:00 Embracing Your True Identity
06:32 Empowerment and Moving Forward
08:04 Taking Action and Living Boldly
 
 

Ep 11 | You Can Be Grateful and Still Want More: Breaking Free from Generational Guilt

Have you ever felt like wanting more somehow makes you less grateful?Like if you ask for alignment, joy, or freedom—you’re disrespecting your family’s sacrifices?
In this soul-shifting episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez, identity liberation coach, unpacks the guilt so many first-gen women carry when it comes to dreaming bigger. Through personal stories, ancestral context, and powerful mindset shifts, she gives you permission to stop playing small and start honoring your legacy in a new way.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why gratitude and desire can (and should) coexist
How generational guilt keeps high-achieving Latinas stuck in unaligned lives
What it looks like to honor your family’s sacrifice without self-abandoning
A mindset reframe that helps you start building a legacy that feels true to you
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “I should be thankful—I have more than my parents ever did…”🔎 “Is it selfish to want something different than what my family planned for me?”🔎 “How do I honor my roots and my own dreams?”Then queen — this episode is your truth serum.
P.S. If you’re done living in a version of success that doesn’t feel like yours, come join me live at my free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” on April 30th at 6 PM EST. We’re redefining purpose, legacy, and permission to evolve.🖤 Save your seat here.
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Timestamps
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Your True Potential
00:57 Season of Growth and Self-Improvement
01:32 Family Sacrifices and Gratitude
03:13 Balancing Gratitude and Ambition
05:48 Letting Go of Generational Guilt
10:33 Conclusion: Taking Bold Steps Forward
 
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Ep10 | How to Detach From Family Expectations and Create Your Own Legacy

Ever feel like you’re living out your family’s dream—but not your own?Like you’re carrying the weight of their hopes, sacrifices, and expectations so tightly that there’s no room left to explore your dreams?
In this soul-shifting episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares a raw, behind-the-scenes recap of a recent mastermind retreat that left her transformed. Through conversations with powerful mujeres walking their own paths, she unpacks what it really looks like to release inherited pressure and rewrite your legacy with intention.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to stop confusing honoring your family with living for them
Why breaking away from expectations doesn’t mean disrespecting your roots
The power of inner child clarity in uncovering who you were before the world told you who to be
How other women just like you are redefining success, purpose, and power
If you’ve been wondering:🔎 “How do I let go of my family’s expectations without guilt?”🔎 “Can I create a new path without dishonoring my parents?”🔎 “Is it wrong to want something more?”...then this episode is the healing, hype, and hell yes you’ve been waiting for.
You can find out more about the amazing women mentioned in this episode below: 
- Lexx Mills, CEO of @drinkstursi specializing in mixologist-crafted cocktails
- Dr. Britney Nichole, MD, physician and creative strategist coach @goldeffectrx
- Jessica Chavira-Eubanks, LCSW-S, CEO of @purplecouchtherapy specializing in black woman medicine
 
P.S. If you’re ready to stop shrinking and start shaping a legacy that actually feels like yours — join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program. 
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Timestamps:
00:15 Life-Changing Mastermind Retreat
01:31 Candid Conversations on Stepping Out of Comfort Zones
02:35 Inspiring Stories from the Mastermind Retreat
04:59 Deep Conversations on Creativity and Fulfillment
06:51 Revolutionizing Mental Health Therapy
08:00 Creating Your Own Legacy
10:26 Taking Action Towards Your Dream Life
 

Ep09 | Comfort Is a Cage: Why Playing It Safe Is Costing You Your Dreams

Ever had the rug pulled out from under you?Like one minute you’re making six figures, feeling “secure,” and doing everything society told you to do… and the next, it’s all gone?
In this raw and real episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares the moment she got fired from her high-paying job at just 24, and how that breakdown led to her breakthrough.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the safety you’ve been sold is often an illusion
How to stop letting fear keep you tied to jobs, titles, and routines that no longer serve you
What the nervous system has to do with your desire to “play it safe”
The freedom that comes from choosing your own version of security
If you’ve been telling yourself:🔎 “I want to leave my job but I’m scared”🔎 “I can’t afford to start over”🔎 “How do I pivot in my 30s?”
🔎 "I want to try something else, but I'm afraid of what my family will say."
...this episode is for you.
P.S. Ready to step outside of your comfort and start building a life that actually excites you? Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program. It’s your time, queen. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 The Day I Lost My Six-Figure Job
02:08 The Illusion of Safety
03:31 Understanding the Fight or Flight Response
04:18 Breaking Free from Comfort Zones
05:48 Empowerment and Taking Bold Actions
06:37 Cultural Strength and Heritage
08:05 Final Thoughts: Embracing Unpredictability
08:23: Make Bold Moves
 

Ep08 | Reinvention Doesn’t Mean Starting Over — It Means Leveling Up Your Current Identity

Are you scared that reinventing yourself means throwing away everything you’ve worked for?That if you change careers, pivot paths, or evolve your identity… you’ll lose the respect, recognition, or stability you worked so hard to earn?
In this liberating episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — sets the record straight: You don’t have to burn it all down to become someone new. Reinvention isn’t about erasing your past — it’s about elevating it.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to reframe reinvention as evolution, not erasure
Why pivoting your path doesn’t mean your previous success was wasted
How to bring your old skills, titles, and accomplishments with you into your next level
How to give yourself permission to grow without guilt, shame, or fear
If you’ve been thinking:🔎 “What if I want something new but don’t want to throw it all away?”🔎 “Will people take me seriously if I pivot?”🔎 “How do I change careers or identities without losing myself?”Then queen — this episode is your answer.
P.S. Ready to ditch the expectations and step into the next version of you with clarity and confidence? Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program — designed for first-generation women just like you. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embrace Your Success
00:53 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast
01:30 The Power of Reinvention
03:34 Steps to Authentic Reinvention
05:03 Permission to Evolve
06:51 Empowerment and Legacy
08:27 Take Action Now
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