The Selfish Snob | Stepping Into Your Power

Ep 21 | Your Questions on Burnout, Boundaries & Becoming You—Answered By Yours Truly [Part 1]

Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t quite belong to you?Like your success looks good on paper—but your body, your energy, and your joy say otherwise?
In Part 1 of this intimate, unfiltered Q&A, The Selfish Snob podcast welcomes a very special guest: Dr. Onaysia Martinez, Identity Elevation Expert, CEO Coach, and founder of Luv U Gurl. But here’s the twist—she’s also the host.
In this behind-the-scenes episode, the mic turns on Onaysia as she answers YOUR questions about identity, burnout, and the cost of being the “strong one” for everyone but yourself. It’s raw. It’s real. It’s exactly what high-achieving Latinas need to hear.
🎧 In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why burnout isn’t always about being tired—it’s about being misaligned
What identity dissonance is and how it shows up in your body
The moment Onaysia realized she was living someone else’s life
How Luv U Gurl began as a nightly ritual—and turned into a revolutionary movement
The biggest mindset shift that helped her walk away from a thriving clinic (and toward her calling)
✨ This is not just an interview. It’s a call to return to yourself.
If you’ve ever whispered:“I don’t know who I am anymore…”“Everyone needs me—but I feel invisible…”“I’m successful, but I’m not fulfilled…”
Then sis—this one’s for you. Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2 where Dr. Onaysia drops a serious gem and daily resource that she gives her clients to level up their identities.
Connect with Dr. Onaysia:🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 IG, TikTok & LinkedIn: @DrOnaysiaMartinez

Ep 20 | Next-Level Success Starts Within: Health, Fitness & Wellness for High-Achieving Women

Have you ever felt like making time for yourself somehow makes you selfish?Like putting your body first means you’re letting everything else fall apart?
In this bilingual special episode of The Selfish Snob, Dr. Onaysia Martinez sits down with Latina personal trainer and wellness coach, Nelsy, to unpack the deep-rooted guilt and generational expectations that keep powerhouse women stuck in hustle mode—even when it’s costing them their health.
This isn’t a convo about flat stomachs or 75-day bootcamps.This is about reclaiming your right to feel good—mind, body, and soul, even as a busy, powerhouse woman.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why high-achieving Latinas feel guilty for slowing down—and how to shift that
How to stop treating your body like a “fix-it” project and start treating it like a divine partner
What true consistency looks like when you’re juggling work, caregiving, and cultural pressure
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “How do I start my fitness journey as a busy woman?”🔎 “How do I stick with a workout routine that reflects my busy schedule?”
Then honey—this episode is what you've been waiting on.
This is your permission slip to opt out of punishment-based fitness and opt into body-aligned power. No more chasing perfection. No more shrinking to fit.
Just you, living fully and unapologetically in your power.
Your Next Steps:
- Follow Nelsy Rodriguez for fitness tips + regimes on IG @nelsy___rodriguez
- Subscribe so you don’t miss an episode of real talk + bold breakthroughs
- Share this with a fellow woman who's ready to step into her elevated era
- Leave a review to help more boss women get right with their mind, body, and soul
Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com
📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez

Ep19 | Pushing Through Is Killing Your Productivity - Here's What You Need to Do Instead

Have you ever felt like your life wasn’t really yours?Like you’ve spent your entire existence following someone else’s rulebook—and now you’re finally ready to write your own?
In this fiery and freeing episode of The Selfish Snob Podcast, identity liberation coach Dr. Onaysia Martinez dives into what it really means to reclaim your time, your energy, and your power. She unpacks how hustle culture, generational expectations, and nonstop survival mode keep high-achieving Latinas stuck on autopilot—and shows you how to finally opt out.
Dr. Onaysia shares a soul-shifting perspective on time, alignment, and what happens when you stop pushing and start prioritizing yourself. This episode is your invitation to take the mic back and direct the story of your life from a place of power—not pressure.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:• How to do a time audit that sets you free instead of stressing you out• Why burnout thrives in women who "look like they have it all together"• The link between your energy cycles and your creative power• How to identify the joy-stealers and reclaim real rest
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “Why do I feel guilty for resting?”🔎 “How do I break free from burnout?”🔎 “What if I don’t want to hustle like this forever?”Then girl—this episode is your sacred wake-up call.
Your Next Steps:• 💥 Join the waitlist for Her Time Now — your next-level coaching container to reclaim joy, energy, and your whole damn life• 🎧 Subscribe for weekly episodes of real talk + radical breakthroughs• 💌 Share this with another powerhouse woman who’s ready to rise without burning out• ⭐️ Leave a review to help more women discover this life-giving podcast
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Taking Control of Your Life
00:52 Life Updates and Weekly Reflections
01:16 Attracting the Life You Want
01:43 Debunking Hustle Culture
03:52 Honoring Your Energy and Joy
04:02 Conducting a Time Audit
08:01 Delegating Tasks and Finding Joy
10:11 Owning Your Time and Energy
13:33 Her Time Now Program
15:42 Closing Remarks and Social Media Plugs
 
Let’s Connect:🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez

Ep18 | The Power of the Pause: Why You Need to Stop Hustling and Start Living

Have you ever felt guilty for slowing down?Like if you’re not grinding 24/7, you’re somehow falling behind?
In this raw and radiant episode of The Selfish Now Podcast, identity liberation coach Dr. Onaysia Martinez gets real about what it means to pause on purpose. She unpacks the toxic cycles of high-functioning anxiety, survival mode, and people-pleasing that so high-functioning women are silently trapped in—then walks you through what it really looks like to reclaim your time, energy, and joy.
Dr. Onaysia shares her story of walking away from a high-stress career and entering a new season of soft power, nervous system healing, and radical self-trust. It's the permission slip you didn’t know you needed—but your soul's been begging for.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:• The truth about why rest feels unsafe for high-achieving women• How hustle culture disconnects us from our joy and self-worth• Signs your nervous system is in survival mode—and how to reset it• A powerful reframe to help you stop proving, and start being
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “Why do I feel guilty for resting?”🔎 “How do I break free from burnout?"🔎 “What if I don’t want to hustle like this forever?”
Then girl—this episode is your sacred wake-up call.
Your Next Steps:• Join the waitlist for Her Time Now• Subscribe for weekly episodes of real talk + radical breakthroughs• Share this with another powerful woman who’s ready to rise without running herself into the ground• Leave a review to help more people find this podcast
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embrace Your True Self
00:22 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast
01:02 Personal Update: Virginia Experience
02:54 The Power of Being Present
05:34 Getting in Tune with Yourself
07:15 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations
11:50 Rewiring Your Nervous System
13:16 Celebrate Your Wins
14:52 Program Updates
16:54 Conclusion: Your Time is Now
 
Let’s Connect:🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com
💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez

Ep17 | When Success Isn’t Enough: Mindset Shifts for High-Achieving Women Craving More

Ever looked around at your life and thought… is this really it?You’ve got it all, your career, your family — but deep down, you’re still searching for more. More joy. More time for you.
And worse? You feel guilty for even thinking it.
In this episode of The Selfish Snob, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — identity liberation + catalyst coach — unpacks why high-achieving women feel stuck even after “making it,” and how to stop letting external validation dictate your worth.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:• How your mindset is shaped by generational expectations and performance-based worth• Why mindfulness is essential to personal development and career clarity• The cost of tying your identity to achievements, roles, and being “the strong one”• How to redefine leadership from the inside out in a way that feels good to you
If you’ve ever said:🔎 “I want more, but I feel selfish even thinking about it”🔎 “I don’t know who I am outside of my job and accomplishments”🔎 “I’m scared to want something different — what will people think?”
...this episode was made for you.
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for weekly coaching gems on mindset, healing, and bold leadership.
Share this episode with the hermana who’s been quietly questioning her path and needs a wake-up call.
Leave a review to help more high-achieving women find this space and give themselves permission to grow beyond the roles they've outgrown.
Let’s Connect:🌐 Website: Learn More
💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
P.S. Ready to stop overworking, overextending, and start actually living again? Join the waitlist for my 1:1 Coaching Program and reclaim your joy, time, and energy over your life today.

Ep16 | The American Dream Was Never Yours Queen—Time To Build Your Own

Burned Out by the American Dream? Reclaim Your Purpose & Redefine Success on Your Terms
Ever checked every box — the job, the degree, the salary — and still felt burned out, disconnected, and lowkey miserable?
In this raw and unapologetic episode of The Selfish Snob Podcast, Latina life coach and identity liberation mentor Dr. Onaysia Martinez calls out the toxic blueprint of the so-called “American Dream” and how it keeps high-achieving first-gen women trapped in cycles of self-doubt, overachievement, and emotional burnout.
This is the episode for the woman who looks “successful” on paper, but secretly feels like she’s suffocating.
You’ll walk away with:
The truth about why the “safe and stable” path is not the same as purpose
What high-functioning burnout actually looks like in women of color (spoiler: it’s not always exhaustion)
How to shift your mindset from survival mode to self-actualization
What it really takes to build a life and business rooted in alignment, freedom, and personal development
Why choosing yourself isn’t selfish — it’s revolutionary
If you’ve been searching podcasts for:🔎 “How to find my purpose”🔎 “Latina life coach podcast”🔎 “Burnout recovery for high achievers”🔎 “How to leave a job that no longer aligns”🔎 “Mindset shifts for first-gen women”…this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.
You were never meant to just survive. You were born to lead — in your life, your legacy, and your liberation.
Ready to take aligned action?Join the waitlist for The Rebel Reunion (formerly known as Path to Purpose) — a transformational experience for first-gen women ready to rewrite the rules and step into a life that actually excites them. Doors close May 21st. Price goes up for the next round. Learn more at www.luvugurl.com/programs.
Your Next Steps:
 Subscribe for weekly episodes on purpose, mindset, identity, and healing generational ties
Share this with a first-gen hermana who’s tired of playing small and ready to do life differently
Leave a review to help more badass women find this show and start their own path to purpose
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez - BTS + bold truths📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez 💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez — for speaker requests + business collabs

Ep.15 | Every Powerhouse Needs a Pause—Here’s Your Sign to Take Care of You First

Sis, when’s the last time you came first?
If you’ve been out here managing everyone else’s chaos—holding the family down, chasing the dream, showing up for everyone but yourself—this episode of The Selfish Snob is your sacred interruption.
Dr. Onaysia Martinez gets real about the emotional storm of moving states, launching a major challenge, and still having to show up while lowkey falling apart. This isn’t a highlight reel—it’s a reality check, a release, and a reclaiming.
✨ It’s the episode every high-achieving, emotionally exhausted, purpose-hungry Latina didn’t know she needed. And it hits deep.
You’ll get into:
The real difference between self-soothing and self-honoring
A weekly ritual to drop the weight you’ve been carrying—spiritually, emotionally, generationally
Why ancestral expectations are fueling your burnout more than your busy calendar
How to actually start living for yourself—not your abuela’s legacy, not your job title, not your degree
If you’ve ever asked yourself:🔎 “How do I stop overextending and pour into me?”🔎 “Is there a way to give back to myself without disappointing my family?”🔎 “Can I be soft, sacred, and still show up like a boss?”
 
💌 P.S. Doors to The R.E.B.E.L. Reunion™ open soon—formerly Path to Purpose, this is your new go-to space to release who you were told to be and return to the woman beneath the surface. Join the waitlist before it fills up, only 2 spots available.

Ep14 | (BONUS INSIDE) How to Ditch The Expectations & Redefine Your Success

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Ever feel like you're constantly performing the version of success your family dreamed of — but it never quite feels like yours?Like you're chasing degrees, promotions, and praise, but deep down, you're craving permission to start over?
In this potent episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — is pulling back the curtain on what went down inside her live webinar: Why First-Gen Success Isn’t the Full Story. If you missed it, don’t worry — she brought the gems, the truth, and a powerful bonus you still have time to access.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why traditional “success” leaves first-gen women feeling stuck and secretly unfulfilled
How to stop confusing obligation with alignment — especially when it comes to family
The real reason you're afraid to pivot (and what to do about it)
How you can begin to detach from the pressure and rediscover what success actually means for you
If you’ve ever wondered:🔎 “What would my life look like if I wasn’t carrying everyone else’s expectations?”🔎 “What if I outgrow the version of success I’ve been praised for?”🔎 “Am I allowed to want something different… something more?”...this episode is your sign. The version of you that wants more is not selfish — she’s your truth.
BONUS ALERTEnrollment for the 3-Day Ditch & Detach Challenge is now open — but there are only 6 spots left, and the price increases Friday at 11:59 PM EST.
This is a sacred space for high-achieving Latinas to get real, let go, and get clear. Over 3 intentional days, you’ll finally stop performing for validation and start defining success on your terms.
Don’t miss this. Doors close soon, and you NEED this transformation, sis. You've been craving it, seeking it out, and now? It's finally here!
 
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe for weekly episodes that help you lead with truth, not tradition
Share this with a high-achieving hermana who’s been carrying the weight of expectations for far too long
Leave a review so more first-gen women find their way back to their path, too
Let’s Connect!🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez

Ep13 | You Were Never Just a Degree or Title: Here's How to Reclaim Your Inner Child Dream

Have you ever looked at your life—the degrees, the salary, the stability—and thought… “Why doesn’t this feel like me?” Like you built a life that made everyone proud but left your soul behind in the process? You’re not broken, sis—you’re just overdue for a reunion with the version of you that used to dream without limits.
 
In this vibrant episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares what it really looks like to reclaim the joy, creativity, and curiosity your inner child never stopped craving.
Because here’s the truth: You were never just a degree. Never just a title. You were always so much more.
 
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
•How to reconnect with the playful, vibrant self you lost in the hustle
•Why childhood dreams aren’t childish—they’re sacred clues to your purpose
•How to stop shaming your desires for more fun, freedom, and self-expression
•A simple weekly ritual to spark joy and creative confidence (even in a packed schedule)
 
If you’ve ever thought:
🔎 “I want to do something just for me—but I don’t even know what that is anymore.”
🔎 “I miss who I was before life got so stressful.”
🔎 “What happened to the girl who used to dream?”
Then this episode is your permission slip to bring her back to life.
 
P.S. If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start making bold, soulful moves toward your dream life, join my free webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST.
We’ll unpack the identity shifts, mindset resets, and inner liberation you need to build a life that finally feels like yours.
Save your seat now at www.luvugurl.com
 
 
Your Next Steps:
• Subscribe to our newsletter so you never miss an update here
• Send this to the amiga who’s been craving more joy and creativity lately
• Leave a review so more first-gen cycle breakers find their way home
 
Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com
📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez
💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
 

Ep12: Never Latina Enough: Embracing Your Identity When You Feel In-Between

Have you ever felt like you’re floating between cultures—never fully accepted in either one? Like your Spanish isn’t “fluent enough,” your features aren’t “Latina enough,” and yet you don’t feel fully seen in Black spaces either?
In this powerful episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — Afro-Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares a deeply personal story about growing up between cultures and how she finally stopped trying to fit in by choosing to stand fully in her truth.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to carry duality in your identity as an Afro-Latina
How to stop performing your culture and start embodying it
Why your truth doesn’t need outside permission to be valid
How to return to your roots to reclaim power and peace
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “I don’t feel Latina enough.”🔎 “I don’t fully belong anywhere.”🔎 “Where do I fit in?”Then girl — this episode is going to hit your spirit.
P.S. If you’re ready to stop seeking validation and start creating belonging from within, you need to be at my free live webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST. We’re unpacking identity, purpose, and the power of choosing your own damn path. Save your seat at www.luvugurl.com
Your Next Steps:
Subscribe so you stay in tune with your growth journey
Share this with the amiga who’s been questioning where she belongs
Leave a review so this podcast reaches more first-gen cycle breakers just like you
Let’s Connect!
🌐 Website: www.LuvUGurl.com📲 TikTok: @DrOnaysiaMartinez📸 Instagram: @DrOnaysiaMartinez💼 LinkedIn: Dr. Onaysia Martinez
 Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Dual Cultures
01:00 Exploring Latina Identity
01:39 Navigating Different Cultures
03:53 Understanding Afro-Latina Heritage
05:00 Embracing Your True Identity
06:32 Empowerment and Moving Forward
08:04 Taking Action and Living Boldly