The Selfish Snob | Stepping Into Your Purpose

Ep13 | You Were Never Just a Degree or Title: Here's How to Reclaim Your Inner Child Dream

Have you ever looked at your life—the degrees, the salary, the stability—and thought… “Why doesn’t this feel like me?” Like you built a life that made everyone proud but left your soul behind in the process? You’re not broken, sis—you’re just overdue for a reunion with the version of you that used to dream without limits.
 
In this vibrant episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares what it really looks like to reclaim the joy, creativity, and curiosity your inner child never stopped craving.
Because here’s the truth: You were never just a degree. Never just a title. You were always so much more.
 
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
•How to reconnect with the playful, vibrant self you lost in the hustle
•Why childhood dreams aren’t childish—they’re sacred clues to your purpose
•How to stop shaming your desires for more fun, freedom, and self-expression
•A simple weekly ritual to spark joy and creative confidence (even in a packed schedule)
 
If you’ve ever thought:
🔎 “I want to do something just for me—but I don’t even know what that is anymore.”
🔎 “I miss who I was before life got so stressful.”
🔎 “What happened to the girl who used to dream?”
Then this episode is your permission slip to bring her back to life.
 
P.S. If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start making bold, soulful moves toward your dream life, join my free webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST.
We’ll unpack the identity shifts, mindset resets, and inner liberation you need to build a life that finally feels like yours.
Save your seat now at www.luvugurl.com
 
 
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Ep12: Never Latina Enough: Embracing Your Identity When You Feel In-Between

Have you ever felt like you’re floating between cultures—never fully accepted in either one? Like your Spanish isn’t “fluent enough,” your features aren’t “Latina enough,” and yet you don’t feel fully seen in Black spaces either?
In this powerful episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — Afro-Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares a deeply personal story about growing up between cultures and how she finally stopped trying to fit in by choosing to stand fully in her truth.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to carry duality in your identity as an Afro-Latina
How to stop performing your culture and start embodying it
Why your truth doesn’t need outside permission to be valid
How to return to your roots to reclaim power and peace
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “I don’t feel Latina enough.”🔎 “I don’t fully belong anywhere.”🔎 “Where do I fit in?”Then girl — this episode is going to hit your spirit.
P.S. If you’re ready to stop seeking validation and start creating belonging from within, you need to be at my free live webinar How to Further Your Success as a Latina on April 30th at 6 PM EST. We’re unpacking identity, purpose, and the power of choosing your own damn path. Save your seat at www.luvugurl.com
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 Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Dual Cultures
01:00 Exploring Latina Identity
01:39 Navigating Different Cultures
03:53 Understanding Afro-Latina Heritage
05:00 Embracing Your True Identity
06:32 Empowerment and Moving Forward
08:04 Taking Action and Living Boldly
 
 

Ep 11 | You Can Be Grateful and Still Want More: Breaking Free from Generational Guilt

Have you ever felt like wanting more somehow makes you less grateful?Like if you ask for alignment, joy, or freedom—you’re disrespecting your family’s sacrifices?
In this soul-shifting episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez, identity liberation coach, unpacks the guilt so many first-gen women carry when it comes to dreaming bigger. Through personal stories, ancestral context, and powerful mindset shifts, she gives you permission to stop playing small and start honoring your legacy in a new way.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why gratitude and desire can (and should) coexist
How generational guilt keeps high-achieving Latinas stuck in unaligned lives
What it looks like to honor your family’s sacrifice without self-abandoning
A mindset reframe that helps you start building a legacy that feels true to you
If you’ve ever thought:🔎 “I should be thankful—I have more than my parents ever did…”🔎 “Is it selfish to want something different than what my family planned for me?”🔎 “How do I honor my roots and my own dreams?”Then queen — this episode is your truth serum.
P.S. If you’re done living in a version of success that doesn’t feel like yours, come join me live at my free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” on April 30th at 6 PM EST. We’re redefining purpose, legacy, and permission to evolve.🖤 Save your seat here.
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Timestamps
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Your True Potential
00:57 Season of Growth and Self-Improvement
01:32 Family Sacrifices and Gratitude
03:13 Balancing Gratitude and Ambition
05:48 Letting Go of Generational Guilt
10:33 Conclusion: Taking Bold Steps Forward
 
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Ep10 | How to Detach From Family Expectations and Create Your Own Legacy

Ever feel like you’re living out your family’s dream—but not your own?Like you’re carrying the weight of their hopes, sacrifices, and expectations so tightly that there’s no room left to explore your dreams?
In this soul-shifting episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares a raw, behind-the-scenes recap of a recent mastermind retreat that left her transformed. Through conversations with powerful mujeres walking their own paths, she unpacks what it really looks like to release inherited pressure and rewrite your legacy with intention.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to stop confusing honoring your family with living for them
Why breaking away from expectations doesn’t mean disrespecting your roots
The power of inner child clarity in uncovering who you were before the world told you who to be
How other women just like you are redefining success, purpose, and power
If you’ve been wondering:🔎 “How do I let go of my family’s expectations without guilt?”🔎 “Can I create a new path without dishonoring my parents?”🔎 “Is it wrong to want something more?”...then this episode is the healing, hype, and hell yes you’ve been waiting for.
You can find out more about the amazing women mentioned in this episode below: 
- Lexx Mills, CEO of @drinkstursi specializing in mixologist-crafted cocktails
- Dr. Britney Nichole, MD, physician and creative strategist coach @goldeffectrx
- Jessica Chavira-Eubanks, LCSW-S, CEO of @purplecouchtherapy specializing in black woman medicine
 
P.S. If you’re ready to stop shrinking and start shaping a legacy that actually feels like yours — join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program. 
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Timestamps:
00:15 Life-Changing Mastermind Retreat
01:31 Candid Conversations on Stepping Out of Comfort Zones
02:35 Inspiring Stories from the Mastermind Retreat
04:59 Deep Conversations on Creativity and Fulfillment
06:51 Revolutionizing Mental Health Therapy
08:00 Creating Your Own Legacy
10:26 Taking Action Towards Your Dream Life
 

Ep09 | Comfort Is a Cage: Why Playing It Safe Is Costing You Your Dreams

Ever had the rug pulled out from under you?Like one minute you’re making six figures, feeling “secure,” and doing everything society told you to do… and the next, it’s all gone?
In this raw and real episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — shares the moment she got fired from her high-paying job at just 24, and how that breakdown led to her breakthrough.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the safety you’ve been sold is often an illusion
How to stop letting fear keep you tied to jobs, titles, and routines that no longer serve you
What the nervous system has to do with your desire to “play it safe”
The freedom that comes from choosing your own version of security
If you’ve been telling yourself:🔎 “I want to leave my job but I’m scared”🔎 “I can’t afford to start over”🔎 “How do I pivot in my 30s?”
🔎 "I want to try something else, but I'm afraid of what my family will say."
...this episode is for you.
P.S. Ready to step outside of your comfort and start building a life that actually excites you? Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program. It’s your time, queen. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 The Day I Lost My Six-Figure Job
02:08 The Illusion of Safety
03:31 Understanding the Fight or Flight Response
04:18 Breaking Free from Comfort Zones
05:48 Empowerment and Taking Bold Actions
06:37 Cultural Strength and Heritage
08:05 Final Thoughts: Embracing Unpredictability
08:23: Make Bold Moves
 

Ep08 | Reinvention Doesn’t Mean Starting Over — It Means Leveling Up Your Current Identity

Are you scared that reinventing yourself means throwing away everything you’ve worked for?That if you change careers, pivot paths, or evolve your identity… you’ll lose the respect, recognition, or stability you worked so hard to earn?
In this liberating episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — sets the record straight: You don’t have to burn it all down to become someone new. Reinvention isn’t about erasing your past — it’s about elevating it.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to reframe reinvention as evolution, not erasure
Why pivoting your path doesn’t mean your previous success was wasted
How to bring your old skills, titles, and accomplishments with you into your next level
How to give yourself permission to grow without guilt, shame, or fear
If you’ve been thinking:🔎 “What if I want something new but don’t want to throw it all away?”🔎 “Will people take me seriously if I pivot?”🔎 “How do I change careers or identities without losing myself?”Then queen — this episode is your answer.
P.S. Ready to ditch the expectations and step into the next version of you with clarity and confidence? Join the waitlist for The Path to Purpose Coaching Program — designed for first-generation women just like you. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Embrace Your Success
00:53 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast
01:30 The Power of Reinvention
03:34 Steps to Authentic Reinvention
05:03 Permission to Evolve
06:51 Empowerment and Legacy
08:27 Take Action Now
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Ep07 | You Don’t Need Another Opinion—You Need to Tap Into The Voice You Were Taught to Ignore

Do you keep brushing off your best ideas because they don’t feel “realistic”?Do you talk yourself out of trying something new because you're afraid of looking “dumb,” making a mistake, or—worst of all—being judged by your family?
In this real, unfiltered episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — explores what it really means to trust your inner voice. She shares her story of giving up on her dream of becoming a chef and how one comment from a parent shaped the trajectory of her entire life.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your childhood passions still matter (and how they reveal your purpose)
How to stop throwing away ideas that don’t seem “realistic”
A framework for identifying what's yours vs. what you inherited
How to use your inner compass to make decisions that align with you — not your family, culture, or fear
If you’ve been searching:🔎 “How do I trust my gut again?”🔎 “I have a dream but I’m scared what people will think”🔎 “How to find my purpose when I’ve been living for others”
🔎 "How do I stop carrying about what other people think?"Then THIS is your divine download, queen.
P.S. Want to stop overthinking and start taking action? Join the waitlist for Path to Purpose — the personalized coaching experience designed to help first-gen women just like you reclaim their dreams and live their lives on their own terms. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Self-Doubt and Fear
00:26 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast
01:06 A Personal Story: Dreams vs. Expectations
02:47 Embracing Your Ideas and Creativity
04:42 Deep Inner Child Work
06:04 Identifying and Overcoming Barriers
08:32 Path to Purpose: Taking the Next Step
09:11 Conclusion: Take Action Now

Ep06 | How to Take the Leap When You’re Afraid of Failing (And What To Do When You Fall)

What would your life look like if fear wasn’t in charge?What if you submitted the job application, finally booked the girls trip, or launched the business idea you’ve been dreaming about—but have been too scared to start?
In this empowering episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — unpacks the real reason you keep putting off the life you want: fear of failure, fear of sucking, fear of not being “perfect” from the start.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to stop waiting until you're “ready” and just start
Why fear is not a stop sign — it’s a signal
A powerful reframe of failure as fuel for success
How to take bold action, even when you're scared (and maybe not that good yet)
If you’ve been searching:
🔎 “How to stop being afraid of failure”🔎 “I want to start something but I’m scared”🔎 “How to feel more confident trying something new”...then this episode is your next brave step forward.
P.S. Don’t miss Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — your next step to ditch fear-based decisions and build a life rooted in courage and purpose. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: What If You Took the Leap?
00:26 Overcoming the Fear of Failure
02:52 Reframing Failure as a Stepping Stone
04:12 The Power of Trying and Showing Up
06:10 Embracing and Processing Your Emotions
06:50 Practicing Courage in Everyday Life
08:36 Conclusion: Take Action Now
 
 

Ep05 | The Overachiever Trap: When Being “That Girl” Becomes Your Biggest Weakness

Have you always been “that girl” — the one who had it all together, made everyone proud, and got all the gold stars… but still feels like it’s never enough?
This episode is for you.
Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-gen Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — is giving a loving but much-needed callout to all the high-achieving mujeres out there who are quietly running on fumes. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t stop achieving, even for a second… it’s not ambition, sis — it’s a pattern. And it’s time to break it.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why being an overachiever can feel like a strength… but secretly drain your joy
How to stop chasing validation through performance and praise
What happens when your identity is too tied to success — and how to reclaim it
A new way to define worthiness that doesn’t require burnout to prove it
Whether you’re still checking boxes, or hitting milestones that don’t even excite you anymore — this is your sign to pause, reflect, and choose yourself.
If you've been searching:
🔎 “How to stop being a perfectionist at work”🔎 “Why I can’t ever relax?”
🔎"How do I stop being so hard on myself?"🔎 “Signs of high-functioning burnout in women”This episode was made for you.
P.S. Don’t miss Dr. Onaysia’s free live training: “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — where you’ll learn how to stop chasing and start feeling successful from the inside out. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 How To Know If You're An Overachiever
02:06 The Downside of Overachievement
05:10 Understanding the Overachiever Mindset
07:17 Celebrate Your Wins
10:46 Shift Your Mindset
12:41 Taking Action and Final Thoughts
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Ep04 | The Real Reason You Have the Sunday Scaries (and What to Do About It)

If your Sunday brunch is ruined by anxiety before the check even hits the table… you’re not alone.
In this episode, Dr. Onaysia Martinez — first-generation Latina, physical therapist turned identity liberation coach — unpacks the real reason behind the Sunday Scaries that hit high-achieving women like a freight train every weekend.
If no amount of prepping, bubble baths, or planner resets are stopping that pit in your stomach before Monday… it’s time for a different approach.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your Sunday dread is less about Monday, and more about misalignment with the work you actually do
How to identify the exact parts of your workday draining your joy
Ways to reconnect with what lights you up — and how to bring more of it into your life
How to set bold boundaries in the workplace and stop normalizing overachievement as survival
If you’re constantly searching:🔎 “Why do I get anxious on Sundays?”🔎 “How to deal with Sunday Scaries in a toxic job”🔎 “Feeling dread before work every week” —...this episode is for you.
P.S. Be sure to register for Dr. Onaysia’s free webinar “How to Further Your Success as a Latina” — your next step toward building a life you don’t need to run away from. Sign up here.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: The Dreaded Sunday Scaries
03:52 Realization and the Root Cause
05:16 Identifying Your Triggers
06:58 Balancing Joy and Drain
08:03 Setting Boundaries at Work
09:06 Taking Action and Moving Forward
09:39 Final Thoughts and Next Steps